Love is one of the most important things in life and being in a loving relationship will also positively influence other areas of life. If you have a good relationship, you will be able to talk openly and honestly with each other, expressing worries and insecurities, and you never feel judged or unsupported. But what happens if you are in a relationship that has regular up’s and down’s – is it easy to recognise this?
Being in a difficult relationship can not only lower your self-esteem and confidence, but it can also be draining and damaging to your mental health. When you’re in a negative partnership, imbalances can occur slowly which can make it difficult to spot – this may include manipulation, being put down, being with a controlling partner or being disrespected. Extreme imbalances can be verbal, mental and physical abuse but sadly, the victim may feel too weak to be able to walk away.
How do you Spot a Difficult Relationship?
Sometimes, relationships run their course and partners drift apart or become distant, inevitably and naturally coming to an end at some point. Some of us relentlessly forgive situations that repeat over and over just because it sort of becomes a normality. We fall into habits of accepting behaviour and therefore allowing it to happen instead of confronting it. Often a breakdown in communication can be the root of arguments, and if partners are manipulative then it can make it difficult to face the truth and speak up to them. Ignoring the signs of a difficult relationship will just mean that the stress and suffering will drag on for longer. A toxic relationship will never improve and if your partner is controlling or manipulative, you may be used to the silent treatment, threats of leaving or worse – facing this for the rest of your life.
What is a Toxic Relationship?
A toxic relationship is where one or both partners control the other. It may be something as little as suggesting clothes to wear or food they should eat, or as severe as not allowing them to see friends or family. Unfortunately, this will only result in a downward spiral, a toxic partner is unlikely to be someone you can eventually ‘fix’ and the root of the matter often comes from an imbalanced childhood relationship with their Mother, Father or sibling. It can be a very negative situation but if you can acknowledge the relationship for what it truly is and visualise your future without that person, free from control and able to make your own decisions or not being put down, then you will recognise how much happier your future could be. Staying in a toxic relationship is simply extending the inevitable.
How to Walk Away from a Difficult Relationship
If you have read the above and you’re still reading, then you may recognise that you’re in a difficult or toxic relationship but you’re not sure whether to stay or go? You may have already tried to talk to your partner about being unhappy or you may have had several break-ups already, but you always come back together. Has anything changed? If not, then you are keeping yourself in the same cycle over and over and taking away any potential happiness for yourself. Once you have made the decision to finally end your relationship, you need to look at the habitual coming back together and change this. Think of several ways you can boost your confidence, such as buying new clothes, going out for dinner with your friends, starting meditation or yoga – give yourself healing time and recognise the ‘new you’ – the stronger person you have become. Don’t look back and have regrets or beat yourself up about why you stayed with that negative person for so long, that was your last chapter, and this is your new one. Reflecting on the past should only be done to remind ourselves of how far we’ve come and to teach us how we have moved forward.
Believe in Yourself
This is the time to believe in yourself that you deserve better and you can start afresh, because one day (when you’re ready) someone special will come into your life. Our psychics specialise in love and relationship readings, so if you’re unsure what to do with your difficult relationship, we can give you insight and guidance on the next step forward. If you are single and ready to meet someone new, then our psychics can also see future love, often being able to tell you when and where you might meet your new partner. Sometimes they can even describe what they look like. Taking a step forward into the unknown world of ‘single life’ can be daunting, but be brave because if you love and respect yourself, your new partner will too.