Intimacy & Spiritual Harmony
What do intimacy and spiritual harmony have to do with one another? Life can take its toll on any relationship; stress, financial worries and the pressures of bringing up children can all conspire to drive a wedge between even the happiest of couples. The first signs of problems can manifest themselves in the bedroom; a partner may be too tired for intimacy, partners may find that they are not going to bed at the time and may even be actively avoiding intimate contact. Once a rut like this has begun, it is very important to break it.
However, it should be understood that lack of intimacy is merely a physical symptom of distress on a higher, more spiritual level. Great importance is attached to intimacy. It makes us feel wanted and needed and is a great release for all the stresses and tensions of the day. But it could be that too much importance is placed on the physical side of a relationship. Withdrawal of intimacy is a sign that a couple is becoming spiritually isolated from one another. And this can prove a harder rift to heal.
With any problem, there are two options - to fight it or to indulge it. The harder road is to be pro-active, but it is the only one that will give a couple any chance of recovery.
Spiritual isolation is more common than you might first think. With so much of our lives being dependent on computers and technology, it is all too easy to withdraw from human contact. The television replaces conversation, the Internet replaces the need for a social life and, very soon, couples can find they are living separate lives under the same roof. Intimacy is the physical manifestation of spirits that are aligned and working in harmony, as are conversation and the sharing of experiences.
In order to establish contact on a spiritual level, both parties must set aside their physical desires and concentrate on rebuilding the ethereal bond that drew them together in the first place. While this may sound complicated, it can be achieved in many simple ways such as talking about the problems that have arisen. During these discussions, it is important that each party has the opportunity to hear and be heard. Through the simple act of talking, it may be that they come to realise that they are not as isolated as they first felt.
In addition, it is worth setting some time away from the technologies that, while they can help our lives, can also intrude upon them. Couples that set aside time for each other away from the distractions of life are far more likely to achieve a balanced relationship, both physically and spiritually. This needn’t involve expensive restaurants. More can be achieved from taking a walk together in tranquil surroundings.
Physical intimacy is a major factor of any relationship, but it is only a corporeal way of expressing higher feelings. Spiritual intimacy is often referred to as the forgotten intimacy as it is sometimes easy to forget that there are other aspects to a person than just their bodily form. Were we to pay as much attention to seeking spiritual intimacy as we do the physical, we might find that more marriages were prone to stand the test of time.